A few weeks back I wrote about (among other things) that people are always asking me about my weight loss. Most of the time I don’t want to talk about what I eat or my exercise program because I feel like people think there is a magic pill and that I’m keeping it a big secret.
If I do actually get into a conversation with someone (a close friend or someone who is obviously in pain and self-doubt) I usually try to steer back to my core beliefs about addiction and self-love. But it rarely goes well:
- First, they just want to talk about the changes in habit, not the changes in mind.
- Second, everything I tell them seems to require some type of argument or excuse.
Here are a few examples:
|What I say…||What they say…||What I think…|
|I don’t eat (wheat, sugar, preservatives, etc.)||My doctor told me to eat… or, I have this important dietary reason I can’t eat what you eat…||So talk to your doctor, not me!|
|I eat the same thing for breakfast and lunch every day||I would get bored and give up after 1 week or I don’t like that thing you eat (yogurt, almonds, brown rice, black beans, etc.)||I really don’t care what you eat.|
|I run several times a week||I can’t run because of this important physical issue, or I can’t stand running.||Did I ask you to run? Find your own fun.|
|I use my fitbit to track my steps daily||My phone has an app that works better than your fitbit. But it hasn’t changed my habits.||Ummm…..Why are we having this conversation?|
It doesn’t matter how many times I say, “This works for me and my body but may not have an impact on you or your body.” It doesn’t matter when I say, “You absolutely should talk to your doctor about what may or may not work for your special physical or health issue.” And it really, really doesn’t matter how many times I say, “For me it’s about never being on a diet again and just finding a way to be healthy and whole.”
There is no formula. I haven’t invented the next fad diet. I don’t want to convince others to do what I’m doing. And I’m certainly not judging what you are eating or if/how you are working out. I found a way to balance my life and feel strong and beautiful and whole. You can find it too, but not by looking at me.